Women’s Health Care Resources
Positive Attitude with Infertility

There is no one right path for fertility problems. The more you know, the easier the journey will be so learn your options, share your thoughts and be honest with yourself and your partner. It is okay to take breaks if needed. It is okay to stop treatment altogether.
Although it’s easier said than done, it can be helpful to engage in self-care activities on a regular basis to keep you in a positive space and not solely focused on getting pregnant. This can become an all-consuming process at times so make sure to find ways to incorporate joy and happiness in your life.
Coping with Your Feelings
You may feel guilty, sad, or angry because you are having trouble conceiving a child. You may begin to feel envious of other couples who are pregnant or have children. You may be tired of having sex on a scheduled basis. These feelings are completely normal but you should try to not let them take over your life. Keep things in perspective and ask for support.
Dealing with Social Situations
People may unintentionally ask you when you will expand your family. Although you interpret this as hurtful, remember they have no idea what you are going through. If you don’t want to talk about it you don’t have to, but it may be helpful to explain your situation.
Nurturing Your Relationship
Fertility problems can strain even the most grounded relationships. Supporting each other is very important. It is important not to blame each other but rather listen and share your feelings with each other.
Reassessment
You may have been doing infertility treatments for quite some time. It may be worthwhile to consider taking a break to relieve some of the pressure you are feeling. This can give you a fresh outlook on other alternatives you may consider. Medical science does not have the really deep answers. We are ever grateful for the surprises of life. Consider the patient who gives up short of her goal only to find herself pregnant in a “rebound cycle” soon after ovulation drugs are withdrawn. Ponder the patient who finally starts the adoption process and then finds herself pregnant!
These are a few of the majestic moments we physicians and our patients are delighted to encounter in our mutual journey in reproductive medicine!
Getting Support
Sharing your feelings of stress and anxiety is usually quite helpful. You may want to talk to your partner, friends, doctor or therapist. You may consider joining an infertility support group. This can help remind you you are not alone.
Caledonia General Infertility Support Group
Meets on the first Monday of each month from 6:30PM to 8:00PM
Host: Jennifer Byrne
Please contact Jennifer at welchbyrne@gmail.com before attending your first meeting.
Milwaukee General Infertility Support Group
Meets on the second Tuesday of each month from 6:00PM to 7:30PM
Location: Shorewood Village Center, 3920 N. Murray Avenue, Lower Level, Shorewood, WI
Host: Leigh Lane-Peine
Please contact Leigh Lane-Peine at leighlanepeine@yahoo.com before attending your first meeting